I love Supernanny. Call me crazy, but this boistrous little English woman knows her stuff! I love her quote:
"Children need boundaries and ground rules. When children don't have structure, they make up their own rules and negative behavior is what they use to get your attention." - Jo Frost
We started implementing the "Naughty Spot" when J turned 2. There was no point trying to place a 1 year old on a spot for 1 minute. Doesn't happen people.
When he turned 2 we decided on a spot...Beside the Fridge. It worked awesome!
Here's our reasoning behind the Fridge:
1. If you place a child in their bedroom when they are bad, it does no good as a punishment. They have a place of comfort (bed), they have stimulating items (toys), or they will just fall asleep without thinking about or being talked to about what they did wrong.
2. Everywhere has a fridge. When we would travel to Canada to visit my family, anywhere we would go, if J was bad, I would threaten the fridge. Worked everytime.
3. In student housing everything just meshes together, so he would sit at the fridge and we could still monitor him.
Supernanny says that you should place your child in their Naughty Spot for the amount of time they are old. Ex: J is 3 now, he sits by the fridge for 3 minutes.
After his 3 minutes is up he has to come over and we explain to him WHY he had to sit by the fridge, and he has to apologize to either parent that placed him there. We then reassure him we love him and give him a hug.
We have found that it works for us, hopefully what you have discovered as far as discipline has worked for you.
We have found that it works for us, hopefully what you have discovered as far as discipline has worked for you.
5 comments:
Discipline is probably the most unpleasant part of parenthood. We also use the "naughty spot" technique and it has worked wonderfully for us.
S is too young for a naughty spot, but he does get time outs. And by time out I mean we fold his arms and hold him so he faces the wall. It sounds bizarre, but he hates it. So it mostly does the job. When I was a kid we had to put our nose in the corner. This works pretty well, so I think we might try that too when S gets old enough.
By the way, I also love Super Nanny.
We do the corner. All of my children and expecially one in particular HATES having to stand still and face the corner always has (must run in the family, huh Deborah?).
I take the kids into the bathroom to give them the talk. We grew up not knowing everyone elses business and I always apprecaited that so try to continue that and like the fridge, everyone has a bathroom and usually people don't barge in. Its an awesome quiet place to talk to them in private.
Hmm, LOVE the bathroom idea. Never thought of that. Growing up my mom would have us (if we were fighting) sit on chairs across from each other in the kitchen. She'd make us say 10 nice things about each other and move the chair closer with each thing we said...HATED DOING THAT! I'm TOTALLY doing it when the boys are older!
We have a time-out circle, which we place in the corner, kid facing the wall. Not enjoyed at all. We also have our little guy (when time-out is done) tell us why he was in time-out.
When I was a kid and any of us fought, my mom stuck us in the bathroom. We had to sing "Love One Another" before we could leave. We were not amused, but usually ended up laughing instead of singing.
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